I’m a fat, white, American, male.
I’m white…which, thank God for that shit, boy. That is a huge leg up. Are you kidding me? Oh, God, I love being white. I really do. Seriously, if you’re not white, you’re missing out. Because this shit is thoroughly good. Let me be clear, by the way. I’m not saying that white people are better. I’m saying that being white is clearly better.” … “Now, if you’re white and you don’t admit that it’s great, you’re an asshole. – Louis C.K.
Louis C.K. is right. I wish he isn’t. Skin color is for another day though. For this I’m going to give my own quote and say “I’m male…which, thank God for that shit, boy.” If I didn’t admit that being male was great, I’d be an asshole.
If we just simply look at gender (just male and female, not variations or identity), being born male is a ‘huge leg up.’
I’m not saying this because I believe there is really any reason for this to be the case, I’m saying this because of society’s and, arguably more-so, religion’s treatment of women.
Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. – 1 Timothy 2:11-12
In fact, I suggest reading all of 1 Corinthians 11, it’s horrible. Stuff about women being created for man, women being “of the man”, etc.
For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. – Ephesians 5:23-24
Talk about a power trip.
Behold, here is my daughter a maiden, and his concubine; them I will bring out now, and humble ye them, and do with them what seemeth good unto you: but unto this man do not so vile a thing. – Judges 19:24
How the Bible is any basis for morality is beyond me. As the late Christopher Hitchens said, “religion poisons everything.”
These (and the many other) teachings don’t lead to morality, they lead to Donald Trump saying of Megyn Kelly “You could see there was blood coming out of her eyes, blood coming out of her wherever.”
They lead to college males saying “No Means Yes, Yes Means Anal!” and “My name is Jack, I’m a necrophiliac, I fuck dead women and fill them with my semen.”
If you don’t find those absolutely reprehensible, YOU are part of the problem. And, if you’ve ever said those, or similar phrases, with anything other than revulsion, then I suggest you get help. Maybe we should have women walking around with strap-ons saying “No Means Yes, Yes Means Pegging!” It’s only fair.
If you’re posting things on the Internet suggesting horrible things happen to women for some reason or another… you’re a terrible human being. You should know better, and I bet you do. Your anonymity gives you cover to be a male asshole. You know why you feel powerful? You’re male. You have no concept. You don’t have to suffer assholes like yourselves. You have no understanding of the fear that women feel because of male assholes.
They lead to attorney Keith Sullivan saying “Look, many women have what’s known as ‘regret sex,’” as a dismissal of rape. He’s part of the problem. If you are of a same mind, you’re part of the problem. “Due to varying definitions of a “False Accusation”, the true percentage of false accusations remains unknown, but is assumed to be a very small minority of reports of sexual assault” If you believe false accusation is a platform, you’re part of the problem.
They lead to Anna Duggar blaming herself for Josh’s cheating. Want to know Josh’s mother’s top marriage tip for Anna? Saying yes whenever Josh wants sex. If you also think this is a good marriage tip, you’re part of the problem.
They lead to assholes putting women’s home addresses on the internet to cause fear and silence. If you don’t think this is wrong, or worse, you think this is funny or justified, you’re part of the problem.
They lead to women atheists being told they deserve to be raped. If you’ve ever thought that rape was justified, you’re part of the problem.
What a price for not having a Y chromosome.
So, I’m a fat, white, American, male. I don’t get my morals from religion. I don’t think my wife should put out anytime I want sex. I don’t say horrible things to women, online or offline. I don’t wish rape on women. I don’t post home addresses to shut up people that I disagree with.
If you’re part of the problem, perhaps its time to re-evaluate yourself. Follow the words of Wil Wheaton, “Don’t be a dick.” Male, or otherwise.
A friend of mine shared this on Facebook; that he knows some really intelligent people.
At the core of my heart I, too, wanted to share this and yet, with every fiber of my being, I know as a woman I would be chastised by too many men who would claim that they were merely disagreeing with your point of view and that I’m self-centered and absurdly paranoid; I’ve been called worse names.
Not all men are like that; I do know.
I say this with the utmost sincerity and deepest gratitude – thank you, thank you, thank God for You and Men like you!
I’m sorry you feel you would be chastised. I think that’s very apropos and to the point of my entry. Someday I hope that all ‘men’ will become enlightened and see that all people are equal, regardless of gender.